3 hours ago
This is so true I feel guilty for laughing!
My ex acted very suspicious with his phone. One day, beside my better judgment, I decided to go through his phone, not whatsapp or insta dms (which btw I regret not checking because I am sure if I had checked it the first time I would have saved myself so much heartbreak). I found crazy shit all over his phone. Be it camera roll or other social apps. It broke my heart. I couldn't wrap my head around what I saw. I refused to believe it. As it began to sink it I got so confused. I didn't understand why he was doing all these unacceptable things.
For a long time I avoided confronting him. However, when things unfolded I realized that he wasn't even ashamed of what he had been doing.
I continued to love and nurture him. I continued to hope he will stop loving those 'other "things".' It is clear that he didn't stop. He continued to abuse my love and I continued to allow him to do it. He justified his cheating and I justified staying by saying I love him and he loves me.
Truth is, you don't treat people you love like this. You don't blame them for your infedelity and deny being a cheat. It is a no-brainer that you are sincere towards the person that you love WITHOUT THEM HAVING TO BEG YOU FOR YOUR LOVE AND SINCERITY.
If you are in a position like I was, please do something about it. Don't tolerate bullshit excuses. Don't blame yourself. Speak to them, try to work things out. If they can't be reasoned with then respect yourself enough to walk away with dignity.